Category: Parent Talk
A colleague & I were talking. My place of business is open 24/7, and I haven't worked a Sunday since the '90's. I mentioned a particularly sad form of testing I would see when I lived in another state...gonorrhea testing on particularly young children.
Really street wise colleague, says, "Spongebob it's nonsense, all bull." Me, "huh"?! "Yeah, baby, all bull. It has to do with custody battles in divorce. It is the American legal right to claim sexual abuse in order to try & win custody of your child, even if there is no proof of this. In most cases it isn't even happening, but Social Services sets up gonorrhea testing with a particular hospital and the hospital performs this test on the child. My ex made that allegation against me, my dad, even my brother who lives outside the region, and it was all nonsense. I have custody of him. The adults know it's bull, but it's traumatizing for the children."
I was repulsed. How could a concerned parent...barring the absence of evidence like a physician's reccommendation or something like trauma to the genitalia put a child through this? This is an invasive test that involves swabs anywhere from the eyes & throat to the genitalia. Also, my colleague explained that Social Services, even though they have their ways of knowing it's nonsense, must take time away from someone who really needs help to set up the proceeding. Personally, I think any sperm or egg donor caught in the commission of this fraud should be denied any possible custody, &, if allowed to visit, have it on a supervised basis only. Incidentally, the egg donor that charged my colleague's family with this crime quit her job...she was so concerned about her son...she quit her job to avoid paying child support to this 8 year old but somehow has money to give to her church. Excuse me while I throw up.
wow! how sad
Yah it's really pathetic how nasty these custody battles can get. The only people that really hurt from this are the children. I know i had to endure this pain during my parents' custody battle. As for child support, how could a parent not want to take care of their kid financially? My own father tried to get custody of my brothers and myself so he wouldn't have to pay child support. If u don't want to take care of your kid, then u should've taken the necessary precautions to avoid having kids common sense people use it!
Agreed 100%. A child of divorce and a father who did not want to take care of us, but my mom just did what was necessary, and she did everything possible to keep us out of it and to make life easier on us. I have written; (on another board), about another friend; (so called), who has said her ex who has custody of her youngest is abusive and was abusive to her and her oldest kid; (who is not his), but with recent happenings I am really beginning to wonder...
Like i posted on another topic on this board it's real funny how abusive parents get to keep their children! So-called child protective services and court systems. The justice system is fucked up!
Yep, it sure is, but let's all pray/hope/whatever that on the twelth it proves us wrong!!! That is when our neighbor goes to court over domestic violence he did not commit, and I know because I was present when she is claiming it happened...
You can only hope for the best.